The Dying of the Light

  Photo by benjamin lehman on Unsplash The covert narcissist is dangerous indeed, but the covert malignant narcissist is the thing that nightmares get made of. These creatures look just like everyone else. You can work beside one for years and if they are within control of themselves and don’t have a job that dysregulates them very easily then you may never know that what a menace they truly are. That is, until you cross them. It may be something unexpected. You may write them a card on their work anniversary, and you may tell them how important they are to the department. You may say some really kind things to them in that letter thinking that they’ll appreciate the acknowledgment and the kind words. Only, for some reason they had got a bad review and it hit them particularly bad. So bad in fact that when they read what you said their paranoia kicked in and they immediately thought that you were trying to get them fired. In fact, they were so certain that the bad review must ...

 Narcissism, Sex, and Gender Discrepancy Photo by aisvri on Unsplash Everyone can agree that narcissism has a higher propensity towards abuse, physical violence, and overt tactics of domination. This doesn’t mean that a narcissist will be abusive, it just means they have a much higher likelihood of being abusive whether they are aware they are being abusive or not. There is a natural connection between narcissism and coercive sex. Men are frequently in the news or are part of some public trial due to coercively forcing sex with women and even minors. This is disgusting behavior and it is condemned by society as a whole. Men that force sex through coercion are parasites. What I find interesting about this discussion is that there is a double standard when it comes to abuse. When men abuse women it takes no time at all for a public denouncement of that individual, and rightfully so. Women are celebrated for coming out with their brave story of survival and they are encouraged to fin...

  Gaslighting — The Rewriting of History Photo by  Toa Heftiba  on  Unsplash I would suspect that if you are aware of gas lighting then you’re aware of how most abusers use it to try to get out of trouble and to try to flip the script so that you’re the one that is on defense. They try to make it so that they never have to feel that shame and they never have to be the bad guy. They can be the perpetual victim and they can always be the one telling the sob story for the sympathy hit, or they can be the justified avenger that finally had enough. In all cases you’re the bad guy and they are the good guy but, it’s petty enough and childish enough that it doesn’t really effect you, despite the annoyance of someone denying what you know to be true. True gaslighting is much more insidious than that. If you’re truly the target of someone with real malintent in mind then this person will sadistically try to break you down mentally and emotionally with the ultimate goal of com...

  Dark Psychology There are many different psychological mechanisms that are  present in society on a daily basis.    These mechanism utilize a person's fears and their ability to interpret messages that their aggressor wishes for them to have.    Everywhere from the office to the club, to your very own home, you are subjected to various forms of manipulation from people.     Manipulation has a bad rap.    People believe that manipulation is a bad thing because of how it makes them feel when they find out that they have been manipulated.   People get upset because it makes them feel like a lesser person, like they have been victimized in some way, and often like they are not intelligent.    Manipulation can be used for good purposes however.    In the case of a newborn baby the very first thing it learns how to do in order to survive is to cry.    By crying they trigger their mother to come an...