The Dying of the Light

  What you need to know about Codependency Photo by Morgan Housel on Usplash Attachment Style Codependency roots from an attachment trauma that a child received in their early years. There are many different causes for attachment trauma ranging from neglect, to child abuse, to the main caregiver becoming ill or hurt, necessity for survival (working for food), to the baby itself being sick or in a lot of pain. Codependency typically accompanies an anxious style of attachment. It is the inverse of narcissism because the narcissists attachment trauma typically manifests itself in an avoidant attachment style. Once a child has an anxious attachment style — if they have any instability at home or some perceived threat to their security they will often move into a people pleaser role growing up. They will attempt to take care of the needs of their caregiver or to avert disturbing temper flares by catering to them and by being the good child at the beckon call of the parent. Arise my Peop...

  Comorbidities and Differences Between a Narcissist and a Psychopath Photo by  Rohan Makhecha  on  Unsplash Narcissism has become equated with abuse in the last few years. Many people think of abuse or of a criminal and they immediately jump to the idea that the person must be a narcissist. Strangely, psychopathy and ASPD tend to slide under the radar without the same damning commentary coming from people in general. A person doesn't typically see psychopathy scapegoated the way that narcissism is which — logically, there really is no sense in this. I disagree with stigmas. I believe them to be damaging and unproductive. If there had to be one though, I would argue that given the statistics that do exist, Society has the stigma is backwards and it should be ASPD that is scapegoated. Background Narcissists and Psychopaths are both from the cluster B disorders which are characterized by a lack of empathy and lack of control when emotionally dysregulated. This is what ...

  Is it good to be a psychopath? Photo by Sivani Bandaru on Unsplash People often treat psychopathy like it’s some type of super power. As if it makes for a superior human being because of the lack of fear and the inability to manipulate them through emotional appeals. Sure, they have an edge when it comes to escalating things as nothing scares them so they naturally are able to keep cranking up the stakes until you can’t escalate anymore. That is an advantage. Taking things to the extreme is what they are good at, while ensuring that they are in a power position over whomever they are dealing with. If they can’t be in a power position then they’ll never get involved. This is why it’s so hard to beat a psychopath. If you’re in a winner takes all situation you can bet that they feel like they have some edge on you so you need to think really hard about what is going on in order to see why they feel that way, or else you’ll find yourself screwed in the end. The psychopath is the expe...

  One aspect of narcissism is that their overall perception of themselves as superior. The covert narcissists are better at hiding this grandiosity, but inside they secretly believe they are better than you. It’s an essential component to the construct where they honestly feel like they are superior to anybody else, and often this belief is without merit. The narcissist won’t have a large portfolio of work, or have any evidence which sustains this notion that they are above average in whatever field that is or whatever topic it is. There simply won’t be anything other than their words which would seem to back their claim up. Where you can start to see this arrogance within their dialog when you start to view them interacting with yourself or other people. There will be this tone of condescension when they speak to anybody that they feel is below them. Basically anybody that is a peer is considered below them as well as anybody that is got a lesser job or, seems to live a simpler li...