You Are Wrong About Your Narcissist Photo by Andrej Lišakov on Unsplash Psychologists will often not believe you if you tell them that your spouse is a narcissist for a couple reasons. The first is that people often don’t truly understand what a narcissist is, and the second is because people are often incorrect with their assessment despite knowing what narcissism is. People can’t diagnose their loved ones. The argument that people can’t diagnose family members roots from a couple of different places. Spouses have a conflict of interest and are too close to the situation to be able to objectively assess and diagnose. Comorbidity confuses people, so they make mistakes within their assessment due to their own lack of training. I actually used to get upset at the notion that significant others have no right to be assessing and diagnosing. I would say that I’m quite capable of identifying abuse and that I’m intelligent enough to be able to assess. However, after re...
Dark Psychology There are many different psychological mechanisms that are present in society on a daily basis. These mechanism utilize a person's fears and their ability to interpret messages that their aggressor wishes for them to have. Everywhere from the office to the club, to your very own home, you are subjected to various forms of manipulation from people. Manipulation has a bad rap. People believe that manipulation is a bad thing because of how it makes them feel when they find out that they have been manipulated. People get upset because it makes them feel like a lesser person, like they have been victimized in some way, and often like they are not intelligent. Manipulation can be used for good purposes however. In the case of a newborn baby the very first thing it learns how to do in order to survive is to cry. By crying they trigger their mother to come an...